The Hidden Effects of Childhood Maltreatment and How Life Coaching Can Help

Violence against women is one of the primary health problems facing adults today. Many people are not aware that childhood maltreatment is a powerful risk factor for health problems in adulthood. Its victims can suffer lifelong health effects.

Maltreatment is best viewed as a risk factor for a wide range of subsequent health problems. Were you neglected, sexually abused, or physically abused as a child? An important step is to face the truth about how you suffered as a child. Health effects have to be assessed within a developmental perspective. There are several avenues by which abuse can affect health.

The first avenue is physiological. Traumatic events can alter the brain and body. The human system of self defense becomes disorganized and overwhelmed. Traumatic events produce profound changes in physiological arousal. The nervous system becomes sensitized and comes to anticipate trauma. There can be dental, vision or hearing problems. An adult can suffer from headaches, backaches, chest pain, pelvic pain, chronic pain and fatigue.

A second way that abuse that affect health is behavioral. Adult survivors may engage in harmful actions or behaviors and become very self destructive. Some behavioral examples are self-injury, shame, suicide attempts, eating disorders, high risk sexual activity, compulsive spending and gambling and substance misuse. These behaviors may be used to numb feelings so the pain can be coped with. These high risk behaviors can impact health.

A third avenue is cognitive – child abuse is associated with distorted beliefs and perceptions about one’s self and one’s behaviors. These negative beliefs can undermine health and lead to low self-esteem, self blame and feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy. It may be common for adults to have perceptions of helplessness, chronic danger and consequent hyper-vigilance. An adult may become shamed-based and feel they are worthless, unacceptable and bad. This vicious cycle can drive a victim inside a private world of suffering, loss of power, re-victimization and deep self doubt. Beliefs can certainly impact health.

Interpersonal difficulties is another avenue. Adults survivors can have difficulties in their adult relationships. Examples include difficulties in trusting others, inability to set boundaries, avoidance of intimacy and close relationships and sexual difficulties. These difficulties can result in social isolation, marital disruptions and divorce. Past maltreatment or victimization can set up an adult victim for relationship failures. This can lead to poor health outcomes.

Finally, the fifth avenue can be in the area of emotional difficulties. An adult victim can have anxiety, fear, terror, and sadness. They may adopt a position of surrendering to life and feel they are abandoned to their fate. They may develop antisocial behaviors that isolate them in relating to others. An adult may suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder which can significantly impact daily life. Another result could be depression and that disorder can have a devastating affect on health.

A history of childhood victimization and maltreatment can have a significant impact on adult health. It can be associated with a range of difficulties in adulthood.

Developing healthier coping skills is a major focus of personal coaching with an adult who has this history. Coaching can assist an adult in managing stress more effectively. Personal coaching can help an adult to learn to nurture and care for themselves. There is a lot of power in self care. You deserve to live a most joyful and healthy life and personal coaching can assist you on your path to extreme self care and wellness.

The Catcher in the Rye: Mental Health Services and Social Connections for Children

The Catcher in the Rye, by J.D. Salinger, was required reading for my tenth grade English class. I remembered it as a story about the struggles of adolescence, the yearning for independence, and the reluctance to let go of youth. My son is now about the same age as I was when I read the book and we are living through his own nudge for independence, which sparked my interest to give the story another read. Before I began, I wondered what my take on the book would be at this point in life having survived adolescence and received training and experience in child development in addition to having a teen in the house. This reading accentuated the unresolved grief, family dysfunction, mental illness, and lack of social connectedness of the main character, Holden Caulfield, and how these difficulties exacerbate the issues experienced during the typical maturational process. As the country still debates gun control laws in the aftermath of Sandy Hook, and as we try to recover from the Boston Marathon bombing, The Catcher in the Rye reminds us about the importance of developing meaningful and genuine connections with our children and the need to address their mental health issues.

The Catcher in the Rye begins as a flashback story about Holden Caulfield’s experiences leading up to his nervous breakdown prior to Christmas. Holden narrates the story while receiving inpatient psychological treatment on the west coast. The events begin at Pencey Prep in Pennsylvania, where Holden has been expelled due to poor academic performance, and conclude in New York City as Holden attempts to return home. During the course of his journey, Holden attempts to make connections with a number of people however, he fails miserably due to his social ineptitude, lack of appropriate treatment for what may possibly be bipolar disorder, and inability to believe that other people are capable of being genuine. Holden eventually makes it home and connects with his younger sister. By that time he has decompensated to the point that, even though he is no longer experiencing suicidal ideations, he feels disconnected, misunderstood, and alone. Holden decides that he is going to go away, to escape from society and the rejection, the loneliness, and the pain that he feels. However, Holden makes one last trip to see his sister Phoebe before he disappears. Phoebe’s caring, anger, and innocence provide Holden with the connection he is looking for; she is both a peer and dependent to him. Through Phoebe, Holden is able to cling to his childhood and put off making the leap to young adulthood and independence.

One theme that I was more attuned to during this reading was the unspoken dysfunction of the Caulfield family. Holden frequently compares himself to his younger, deceased brother, whom he describes as brilliant and athletic, as well as his older brother, who has become a successful author. It is suggested that Holden is a challenging child, and somewhat of a disappointment to his parents as he has been unable to live up to their expectations. He has been expelled from at least four preparatory schools due to poor academic performance, he has difficulty socially connecting with others, and he has frequent mood swings. It is possible that Holden’s parents were drained from watching their youngest son battle with leukemia which left them with little strength to effectively deal with Holden’s grief and potential disability. In Holden’s eyes, they appear to have emotionally and physically divested themselves from him. He has little to no emotional family support and what appears to be very little communication with them. Holden is left adrift to navigate this tumultuous time in his life without support, understanding, and treatment. His efforts to reach out and communicate, including failing out of schools and getting into fights, are not understood as cries for help but are seen as personal shortcomings.

Holden perceives most people as being phony, superficial, and hypercritical. This may in part be due to his social awkwardness, lack of maturity, and feeling of being abandoned by his parents. He is continuously let down by everyone that he reaches out to for help as they either don’t live up to what Holden has built up in his mind, or they try to take advantage of him. Therefore, Holden comes to believe that everyone is phony who doesn’t or is incapable of meeting his preconceived expectations. In addition, Holden clearly experiences moments of mania during the story, which are often followed by feelings of sadness to the point where he does express some suicidal thoughts. It seems that the lack of communication with his parents, the unresolved grief and guilt over the death of his brother, and the inability to effectively and appropriately connect with others result in Holden being unable to interact with others on anything but a superficial level. The exception to this is Phoebe. Her reluctance to let her brother leave provides Holden with the strength to go home and ask for help. However, in the end, Holden continues to suffer from a lack of love and feelings of loneliness. He states, “Don’t ever tell anybody anything. If you do, you start missing everybody.” At this point, Holden continues to find it difficult to have genuine, meaningful relationships believing that when you open up to people that they will turn away from you in order to keep the relationship on a superficial level. Holden continues to be plagued by this emotional void and, while there is a hunger for social connectedness, he will continue to experience emptiness and rejection due to his quirkiness.

For me, reading The Catcher in the Rye in high school highlighted the struggle for independence and Holden’s war on hypocrisy. On this reading, I was able to obtain a better understanding of the tragedy that occurs as a result of Holden’s parents being unable to provide him the emotional support that he needs to overcome his brother’s death and deal with his mental health needs. Holden’s repeated failure to socially connect and develop a meaningful relationship with anyone other than his sister and the lack of treatment for his mental health issues made me think of the recent tragedies in Colorado, Sandy Hook, and Boston. It reinforced the need to take mental health needs and services seriously; just because these conditions are unseen doesn’t mean that they aren’t debilitating. Feeling cared for and connected to others reduces the stress, stigma, and isolation that are associated with these conditions. It made me wonder whether these tragedies could have been avoided if the people involved had received appropriate therapy and treatment. They may have felt connected and accepted, and these tragedies may have been avoided. The message of being accepted and cared for from The Catcher in the Rye continues to be relevant to young people today as we all strive for acceptance.

Dental Health Is a Direct Connection to General Health

Not that long ago oral hygiene was not considered anything important to one’s overall general health. Dental health and oral hygiene is as important as other things in our body. Their proper functioning can avoid lots of complications and if a problem occurs, then many of the tasks be stopped.

Apart from adding up to your beauty and smile by maintaining your teeth, it is also important for your health as dirty and pale teeth can result in many complications like intestinal problems, stomach problems and more.

They can also look good and smell good, likewise if you have maintained them well. In order to look after your teeth well, your teeth be clean of germs and debris that can make them look faded and yellow. Your gums along with your teeth if perfectly healthy they should not bleed while brushing as unhealthy gums bleed as well as hurt. So, if your gums and teeth are in perfect health they won’t bleed, hurt or have any bad breath.

Brushing and Cleaning

Proper brushing is the fundamental step to take to have clean and healthy teeth. There are many people who are not aware of the basic steps in cleaning and brushing teeth. Brushing requires 2 minutes time and it is important that at least this amount of time is given. You should reach with the toothbrush all areas of your mouth and brush all the teeth, paying special focus on back teeth, corner teeth, around the gum-line teeth etc.

Teeth cleaning and brushing helps you to clean your teeth off debris, plaque and bacteria and to make them look shiny, sparkling and white. Brushing the teeth right means brushing up and down and not long site of teeth and gums. The up and down movement with the brush will allow the bristles of the brush in between the teeth to remove any food particles. This will prevent many teeth ailments like gingivitis, cavities or dental caries, periodontal ailments etc.

Toothpaste!

Selecting toothpaste at random is a problem and a health concern. Chemicals in toothpaste make many people sick, most of the time not realizing the connection. There be hardly any toothpaste you can find of the shelf that are chemical free.

To find a toothpaste that is one hundred percent free of artificial flavor, color, sugar, sweetener, and toxic chemicals would be almost as hard as picking the winning lotto numbers. There is one well-known brand name made in China; this one is even worse than most of the others. Stay well clear from it. Most people are not aware of chemical sensitivity and those with allergies, diabetes etc. what effect this can have.

Dental Health Does Affect General Health

Most of us understand that poor dental health can cause gum disease, gingivitis, mouth sores, buildup of plaque and tooth loss. It doesn’t stop here; bad oral hygiene can lead to many other serious health issues. We should not underestimate, oral health is about much more. It can cause cardiovascular disease and blood disorder. Bacteria from the mouth can get into the blood stream, cause infection spreading throughout the body. Infection of the gum can interfere with brain cells and lead to memory loss.

Because of inflammation caused from gum disease, this can trigger rheumatoid arthritis, which is painful and is a debilitating inflammatory disease. As well it can affect kidneys, blood pressure, bones and weaken the immune system. As bacteria travels through the bloodstream, it can cause respiratory infection and infect lungs causing bronchitis and pneumonia.

Some other studies and information claim that cancer is also triggered by root canal. Evidence shows when cancer patients get the root-canal removed the recovery rate, when treated for cancer, is by far greater and the patient gets better. Although, the cause of the problem shouldn’t be ignored and treated first, before treating the symptom. As with oral health, it’s a well-known fact that oral health affect’s much more than just your mouth. Inflammation in the gums or toxic pockets in the jaw can destroy the immune system almost completely.

4 Impossibly Simple Dental Hygiene Tips for Everyday

Everyone wants to have that fantastic toothpaste-model smile. Did you know that getting such a smile is not all that difficult? Sometimes all that is needed is to maintain high levels of oral hygiene. All dental problems- at least a majority of them- are as a result of poor dental care. These issues could be anything from gum disease, bone loss, heart disease and so much more. Checkups and proper hygiene can prevent these issues. Here are some simple dental hygiene tips that you can employ to ensure that you keep your teeth healthy for years to come. They are exactly what you know:

1. Brushing

This is one of the simplest ways of maintaining oral hygiene. If you are brushing your teeth, you need to place your brush at an angle of 45 degrees close the gum line. The gum line and tooth surface must be in contact with the bristles. On the outer surface of the teeth using a backward -forward, up-and -down motion, making sure to be done gently to evade bleeding.

In order to clean the inside surfaces of the teeth and gums, place the bristles at a 45-degree angle and repeat the backward forward, up-and-down motion. Finally, the brush surfaces of your tongue and the roof of your mouth to remove bacteria, which may lead to bad breath. Brushing your teeth twice a day helps you to curb buildup of bacteria. If you cannot do this, rinse your mouth with water after eating to reduce the amount of food that would serve as the home for the bacteria.

2. Flossing your teeth.

Flossing can help you remove food particles and other damaging substances that regular brushing of teeth cannot. It enables one to reach between the teeth where toothbrush bristles cannot reach or mouthwash can’t wash away. It is recommended that you floss your teeth once in a day.

3. Reduce tobacco intake

This will help your teeth a lot. First, it will save you from oral cancer and periodontal diseases. Second, it will put away all the many horrible side effects caused by agents used to mask the smell of tobacco. For instance, when you smoke a cigarette, you are highly likely to use candy, tea or coffee to mask the smoky breath and odor from getting out. This increases the harm created.

4. Use mouth wash apart from brushing and flossing

They are not important and not all are effective. They contain Listerine and carbon dioxide is very helpful because they help exterminate and preserve the bacteria in your mouth. Mouth wash can help sustain well-built teeth. However, mouth wash goes hand in hand with brushing, flossing, visiting the dentist and eating well, it is just the thing that will improve your dental strength and make it grand.

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